Yesterday I were talking with one of my friends, he is going to engage soon isAllah, forgive me I can't say his name in this post, because most probably you won't know him and I'm afraid he may feel angry from me,
Are you a decision maker? are you used to take a decision in ur activities with ur colleagues? are u the decision maker in ur family?
In last post we have talked about habits and how it affect person's attitude, and we have agree that there are some good habits and other bad habits; here are some common bad habits made by people (most of these bad habits is extracted from power of focus book). - Not returning phone calls in time
- Being late for appointments
- Smoking
- Poor communication between colleagues and stuff
- Sleeping in working time
- A lack of clarity about expected outcomes, monthly targets, goals, ..etc
- Not allowing enough travel time for outside appointments
- Handling the mail more than once
- Allowing bills to go unpaid, resulting in interest penalties
- Talking instead of listening
- Forgetting someone’s name sixty seconds after being introduced
- Hitting the snooze alarm several times in morning before getting out of bed :D
- Working long days with no exercise or regular breaks
- Not spending enough time with your children (if u have)
- Having a fast-food meals program Monday to Friday
- Eating at irregular times of the day
- Leaving home in morning without hugging your wife and children
- Taking work home with you
- Making reservation at the last minutes
- Not taking enough time off for fun and family
- Having your cell phone on all the time
- Answering the telephone during family mealtimes
- Procrastination on everything from filing taxes to cleaning out your garage
well, now how many habits you have are included in above list, for me I have more than 5 habits from the above list, but I’m asking Allah to help me in overcome it all,
Habits are automatic routines of behavior that are repeated regularly, without thinking. The person may not be paying attention to or be conscious or aware of the behvior.
Days ago I have received story via mail talks about situation between wife and her mother in law, really I like the story much and I liked to share with u, actually till now I don’t have mother in law, as I don’t have wife yet:)
A long time ago in China , a girl named Li-Li got married & went to live with her husband and mother-in-law .
In a very short time, Li-Li found that she couldn't get along with her mother-in-law at all. Their personalities were very different, and Li-Li was angered by many of her mother-in-law' s habits. In addition, she criticized Li-Li constantly.
Days passed, and weeks passed. Li-Li and her mother-in-law never stopped arguing and fighting. But what made the situation even worse was that, according to ancient Chinese tradition, Li-Li had to bow to her mother-in-law and obey her every wish. All the anger and unhappiness in the house was causing Li-Li's poor husband great distress.
Finally, Li-Li could not stand her mother-in-! law's bad temper and dictatorship any longer, and she decided to do something about it!
Li-Li went to see her father's good friend, Mr. Huang, who sold herbs .
She told him the situation and asked if he would give her some poison so that she could solve the problem once and for all.
Mr. Huang thought for awhile, and finally said, "Li-Li, I will help you solve your problem, but you must listen to me and obey what I tell
you."
Li-Li said, "Yes, Mr. Huang, I will do whatever you tell me to do. "Mr. Huang went into the back room, and returned in a few minutes with a package of herbs. He told Li-Li, "You can't use a quick-acting poison to get rid of your mother-in-law, because that would cause people to become suspicious Therefore, I have given you a number of herbs that will slowly build up poison in her body.
Every other day prepare some delicious meal and put a little of these herbs in her serving. Now, in order to make sure that nobody suspect you,
when she dies, you must be very careful to act very friendly towards her. "Don't argue with her, obey her every wish, and treat her like a queen." Li-Li was so happy.
She thanked Mr. Huang and hurried home to start her plot of murdering her mother-in-law. Weeks went by, and months went by, and every other day, Li-Li served the specially treated food to her mother-in-law. She remembered what Mr . Huang had said about avoiding suspicion, so she controlled her temper, obeyed her mother-in-law, and treated her like her own mother.
After six months had passed, the whole household had changed. Li-Li had practiced controlling her temper so much that she found that she almost never got mad or upset. She hadn't had an argument with her mother-in-law in six months because she now seemed much kinder and easier to get along with.
The mother-in-law' s attitude toward Li-Li changed, and she began to love Li-Li like her own daughter. She kept telling friends and relatives that Li-Li was the best daughter-in- law one could ever find. Li-Li and her mother-in-law were now treating each other like a real mother and daughter. Li-Li's husband was very happy to see what was happening. One day, Li-Li came to see Mr. Huang and asked for his help again She said, "Dear Mr. Huang, please help me to keep the poison from killing my mother-in-law. She's changed into such a nice woman, and I love her
like my own mother. I do not want her to die because of the poison I gave her."
Mr . Huang smiled and nodded his head. "Li-Li, there's nothing to worry about. I never gave you any poison. The herbs I gave you were vitamins to improve her health. The only poison was in your mind and your attitude toward her, but that has been all washed away by the love which you gave to her."
HAVE YOU REALIZED that how you treat others is exactly how they will treat you? There is a wise Chinese saying: "The person who loves others will also be loved in return."
